Sunday 13 August 2023

Jamaican Men Enduring Abuse Need Our Support

Lois Grant
In a society that often emphasises the strength and invincibility of men, the truth remains hidden beneath layers of stigma and societal expectations. While much attention has been rightfully directed towards the abuse faced by women, it is time to acknowledge that Jamaican men, too, are suffering in silence. The stories of abuse and mistreatment experienced by these men need to be brought to light, not only to challenge stereotypes but also to offer them the support they deserve.

The prevailing narrative that men should be impervious to pain and hardship has created a toxic silence around the abuse they endure. Fear of judgment, ridicule, and being seen as less masculine has led countless men to suffer in isolation, locked in relationships that leave them emotionally scarred and mentally shattered. But it's time to shatter these stereotypes and recognise that strength comes in many forms, including the courage to speak out against abuse.

Invisible wounds are just as damaging as physical ones. These men, who are often the pillars of their families and communities, deserve the freedom to share their stories without fear of belittlement. Imagine the pain of discovering that the child you thought was yours belongs to another man, an ordeal more haunting than one can fathom. It's a deep betrayal of trust and a direct attack on one's sense of self.

However, it's not just paternity violations that these men face. The emotional abuse they endure leaves scars that are equally as profound. Stories of husbands being publicly beaten by their wives, surrounded by jeering onlookers, are disheartening reminders of how gender norms can perpetuate cruelty. Such incidents not only undermine these men's dignity but also reinforce a dangerous power dynamic that fuels the cycle of abuse.

Behind closed doors, the abuse continues. Financial manipulation, emotional isolation, and even physical violence leave men feeling trapped and powerless. The story of a man who toiled on a farm programme, providing for his family, only to discover that his earnings were used to support another man who fathered his wife's children, paints a grim picture of exploitation. This level of betrayal undermines not only his sense of self-worth but also his ability to trust and love.

It's time to offer these men a lifeline, a message that they don't have to endure this pain alone. To the men who are suffering in silence: you are not weak for seeking help, nor are you any less of a man for sharing your pain. It takes immense strength to break free from the chains of abuse, to acknowledge that you deserve better, and to seek support from friends, family, and professionals.

To those who read these stories, remember that compassion knows no gender. Just as we rally behind women who face abuse, we must stand by our men as they break free from the shackles of silence. Society must redefine strength as the courage to heal, the bravery to speak out, and the resilience to rebuild. Only then can we truly create a community where every individual, regardless of gender, can live free from the torment of abuse.

Let these stories be a call to action, a plea for change, and a reminder that no one should endure abuse in silence. It's time to break the chains and let the voices of Jamaican men echo with the strength of their resilience and the power of their survival.



Written by Lois Grant.

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Editor's Note:

Lois Grant has dedicated her entire career to the field of communication. She began at Jamaica Broadcasting Corporation as a news editor and later co-founded Innercity Promotions. In 1990, she launched her own production and communication company, Corporate Image Productions. Her notable achievement includes spearheading the Caribbean's acclaimed Tastee Talent contest. Grant's role as Director of Communications in the Office of the Prime Minister further solidified her impact. as a communicator. Her commitment to education is evident through scholarships initiated under Corporate Image, benefiting Jamaica's top performing artists,, media professionals, educators, and esteemed individuals across various fields. She is the production representative for the prominent US network, NBC Sports. 


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7 comments:

  1. It goes both ways

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  2. Both pieces regarding both sides are real.

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  3. I am most grateful for this article. Just yesterday I was speaking on this topic with a friend who is unable to love any woman because of the countless abuse these women exposed him to. Please provide a number where he can get some psychological support.

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  4. So true it goes both ways👹

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  5. Check the directory for psychiatrist Dr. Jeffrey Walcot.

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  6. We really need to talk about this aspect of abuse more. Men are also being abused and I have seen videos on the internet with women beating their men. It's true. We can begin the change by bringing it to the public.

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  7. Some of Us women are selfish, we don't think men have feelings and we continue to treat them badly. Hoping this article have opened the eyes of many

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