Contributed
I am of the view that there would likely be a reduction in domestic violence if the men were taking care of themselves for their women, while their women were taking care of themselves for them. In such situations, when one leaves the other, there is likely to be little or no financial loss on either side.
The problem arises when men are taking care of women, and then those women decide to leave them.
My brethren, let us take care of our daughters to empower them to take care of themselves for their partners.
Contributed by
Raymond McLean
Chartered Accountant
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The problem is compounded when greed sets in, as some women will not be satisfied with what some of their men can afford.
ReplyDeleteProbably the men should run faster than Usain Bolt to get away from those greedy women.
ReplyDeleteI received this hilarious message from a supporter, "I definitely reduced dependence on my spouse..didn't bother with one."
ReplyDeleteThese men suffer from low self-esteem. They would become more violent if women were more independent. They use violence to control women. Some think too much of themselves and believe they own women. These mindsets are the soil gender violence grow in. The offered solution is no solution unless mutual respect is mixed into the "soil". Yes, men are abused too. Some women will take the lights out of men they perceive as being "weak". That's a problem the society struggles with.
ReplyDeleteMost don't know how to differentiate:
- The boys vs the men
- The girls vs the women
- Respect vs disrespect
- Love vs control
- Low self-esteem vs high self-esteem
- Abusive vs protective
-Confidence vs jealousy
- Relationship conditions: boyfriend & girlfriend vs marriage covenant
- ..etc...
One taking care of him/herself for the other is going to result in more murder suicides. Are you following me?
If a spouse is independent, then the spouse doesn't have to hang around to be abused day and night! You run like Usain Bolt at the first sign.
DeleteI see what you're saying. But, I believe many abusive relationships involve successful people— people with means. It is not a poor man's plight. It is a social plague.
DeleteYes, having money to get yourself out of abusive relationships is goof, but a lot of spouses are killed by their spouses afrer separating from them. This is why I raised the points above.
This issue is not a man vs woman issue or good vs bad. It is not a battle between the sexes per say. The issue is that the very foundation of a functional society is weak. If your foundation is weak, you're building on a fragile and unstable ground. Family values in Jamaica is very poor. Example - 40 per cent single-mother rate, high rate of jackets (Jamaica has highest in the world), high rate of children born out of wedlock. Some persons may want to frown on these things as they don't believe they have a bearing on anything. However, out of such circumstances are individuals who are products of broken homes. According to research, Jamaica has a high juvenile delinquency rate. How can the product of such scenarios be expected to have a normal relationship? They are, in many instances, dysfunctional individuals who are incapable of having a healthy relationship with anyone - even if they are well educated and rich. The problem is that there are very few good examples of man and woman relationship for our kids to model, and too many children are not growing up in a loving and nurturing environment. As such, when they grow up and enter into a dating relationship they are clueless. We have to decide to go back to the Biblical principles regarding family and relationship in this country. Please note, I did not say church principles. That's not always the same as Biblical principles.
ReplyDeleteYou seemed to have put plenty thought into this. This is not common. You could contribute an article to this blog. WhatsApp 876 816-5261.
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