Social
graces are manners which are used when socializing with individuals. Some
persons have failed miserably because they do not know better while others who
are expected to know better have ignored these acceptable rules. It is
important to become familiar with social graces so as to prevent embarrassment
in settings such as a job interview, a formal event with your boss or in
everyday scenarios.
Isn’t it
true that you would assume that your boss, an interviewer or a host would
practice these skills? I assumed this too until a few years ago when I was
interviewed by the CEO and principal shareholder of a popular media house who
boasts over 25 years of local and overseas experience.
My
research revealed this was a professional and upstanding individual who did not
settle for mediocrity. The more information I uncovered the more nerve-racking
the thought of being interviewed by one of media’s greatest became.
On
entering the interview I could sense a level of discomfort in the interviewer.
Strange, I thought. This was soon revealed when he started to rub his chest in
a way that my grandmother would when she had gas in her stomach. The interview
was soon interrupted by loud belches from the interviewer who offered no
apology. I was in shock! How could someone in such a prestigious position
behave in such a manner showing scant regard for my presence? And then, the
unthinkable… my sense of smell was awakened by an obnoxious odor that could be
likened to flatulence. This was unbelievable! If he wanted to see how well I
handled pressure this was a true test.
The
interview proceeded with questions which showed that he was not prepared for
the interview and had not gone over my résumé until now as he asked questions, the
answers to which were clearly stated on my application such as my address and
name. I felt embarrassed for him. Would you have thought that you would be
asked to declare your political preference unless you were applying for one of
those relevant positions? No, I was not being interviewed for a position with
the Electoral Office of Jamaica or any other government entity. This was a
position for a media practitioner intern.
But, of course he would want an unbiased intern so I’ll let that one pass.
My politically correct response: “I don’t think I have been around long enough to develop a liking
for either of the two major political parties”.
After instructing
me to do some voiceovers and return to his office on my return, the interviewer
was exiting his chair and making for the door as if to indicate our interview
had concluded. Maybe he wanted a bathroom break but he could have asked for
excuse. By now I was sure I had no interest in being an intern at this place. I
politely said I’m sorry Mr… but I do have some questions of my own if you don’t
mind. He obliged.
Me: “Can you tell me more about the
structure of this internship programme?”
Interviewer: “Well, you just come to work and
uh do a number of things”
His
response did not convince me that this ‘programme’ would facilitate my
development as a young aspiring media practitioner.
Social
graces are for all. There is no excuse or substitute for good manners. What is
good for the goose is good for the gander. Let us all be respectful of our
associates, boss, subordinates or family members. Practice social graces it
will save you the embarrassment.
